End of the Handle?

May 14, 2005

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Are we past the days of easy online pseudonymity? I don't have any hard data to back this up, but I was given cause to wonder recently. Inspired both by Rheingold's popular work Smart Mobs: The Next Social Revolution, and by an enthusiastic new friend, I launched myself full-on into the world of text-based communication and online social networks in a way that I hadn't in years.

A few years ago, I spent a lot of time chatting with people on ICQ, AIM, and other acronyms. There were people that I would definitely label "friend" that I exchanged thousands of words with without ever meeting face-to-face. In many of these cases, I didn't know or care to know their "real name". Even after learning names, I still thought of them by their often unpronounceable pseudonyms. Even after meeting them in person, I found their forum handles and IM screen names passing my lips, much to the amusement of non-"internet friends" present.

Certain aspects of my life changed, and I backed off from my technology-supported social networks to some degree. I found myself in a new city, spending most of my time with a girl I was in love with. I spent less time at the computer, as I wasn't doing schoolwork anymore, and a growing distaste for most human contact left me less than interested in networking. The girl detached from me over the span of a few months, and eventually left me. During this time, I was working at a publisher, and on the computer all day. I began to weave myself back into my net of contacts.

Naturally, I met a few new humans. I shared (and continue to share) a lot of interesting conversation with them. It felt like old times, with one distinct exception: real names came out early, and were used often. In some cases, people opened up dialogue with something like "My name is Rob. Yours?" At first, I found this very strange. I wasn't exactly sure how to reconcile it with my experience. As a natural first step, I tried to assign some sort of value to both practices (using names from the start, names being unimportant), and found myself at a loss. I wasn't sure that being pseudonymous added much value other than giving the parties in the conversation room to BS.

At some point, I plan to do some looking around online for papers about this. I would find it very curious if the effects of pseudonymity on conversation hadn't been addressed by an eager undergrad somewhere, at the very least. I did some casual investigation, and the consensus of my nets seems to be that online relationships of all kinds have become so 'mainstream', that the age of the handle is over. That is to say, 5-10 years ago, there was a psychological wall between net-friend and real-friend that has largely dissolved. This raises questions that I don't have answers to. These questions make me hope for enough free time for another research project in the near future!

Comments

#1

Anonymous commented, on December 5, 2007 at 6:23 a.m.:

interesting, the new melding of the virtual and tangible worlds. i, too, have observed the shift from relying on a sort of "facade" (read, handles and the use of fake names and identities to hide the real person behind the text) to a sort of nouveau-real...the kind of reality that still facilitates the artifice that often plagues humanity and yet also embraces a new sort of community where brutal honesty and candid discussions can be accepted without the possible shame and/or degradation of a face-to-face spilling of personal issues.cheers.

#2

ms yarn commented, on December 5, 2007 at 6:23 a.m.:

Partly, no doubt, due to isolation out here from a supportive, intelligent community of people with common interests, I have become fairly close with a small online community. This never, NEVER would have happened ten years ago, I agree. I have exchanged real mail, packages, and email with many of them, as we grow from our handles to know the people behind them.I hear more about their daily lives than I do my real-life friends sometimes, and I find myself concerned for their welfare as if we lived next door. Friend once told me something that he heard somewhere, "Never talk to people on trains, but when you are twenty-one, start talking to people on trains. You can meet some really interesting people that way." I guess maturity protects us a little from potential youthful pitfalls, as also knowing that anonymity isn't as anonymous as we think it is.

#3

Edward Vielmetti commented, on December 5, 2007 at 6:23 a.m.:

Of late I've noticed people with easy transitions between Real Names and nicknames, and what would have been a "handle" in the old world is not just one more nickname that you give someone whose real name you also know.

As it turns out, if your interests are broad enough sometimes you can pull off having more than one online nickname, and some people will know you as one thing and some as another even if you're not explicitly hiding your identity.

(I know you only as thedaniel, bkerr's friend, but I see bkerr frequently enough to know that if I needed a real name it would be easy to find out.)

nicknames can be really useful in order to make yourself more findable on the net. People have a lot easier time remembering and typing 'superpatron' than they do 'vielmetti' when they want to look up my library interests, and so the nickname adds to my visibility and doesn't detract from it.


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